In 1992, John Gray released, “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.” It was important work then. It is just as (if not, more so) important today. Why do we as men struggle to understand what women are thinking and saying? And, why do women struggle just as much in understanding us?
My guest today, Vanessa Bennet, author of “The Motherhood Myth,” and psychotherapist sheds some light on the reasons, including an inside look at what women are thinking and why. Today, we talk about the misunderstandings between men and women, why women aren’t interested in being with you as one of their children, why women are looking for leadership and respect from men, what is healthy womanhood and manhood, why safety is a key factor in attractiveness for women, and what it really means when a woman says, “I want a man who is vulnerable.”
Vanessa Bennett is a licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator whose work centers on helping men and women reconnect with their deepest sense of self. She draws from Jungian (Shadow Work) to support individuals in breaking generational patterns and reclaiming their internal authority.
Bennett is also the coauthor (with her partner John Kim) of the relationship book It’s Not Me, It’s You. She cohosts the podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, and is the author of her latest book, The Motherhood Myth. She leads workshops, retreats, and offers therapy, coaching, and teaching. Through her writing, speaking, and online presence, she advocates for more ways of being in relationships, honoring both men and women, and become acquainted with ourselves.
Brotherhood isn’t just a want—it’s a lifeline. Too many men are white-knuckling their way through life, carrying silent burdens no one else sees. Alone, that weight crushes you. But in brotherhood, you find men who stand shoulder to shoulder, who refuse to let you drift into isolation, who call you out when you’re falling short and remind you of the strength you’ve forgotten you have. It’s the difference between stumbling alone in the dark and having a fire at your back, lighting the way forward.
Iron sharpens iron, but it also sparks. True brotherhood ignites something deep inside a man—a drive to rise, to fight, to build. It demands more of you than mediocrity, and it forges resilience through shared struggle and shared triumph. In a world that tries to dull men into silence and comfort, brotherhood wakes you up. It doesn’t let you settle. It makes sure you become who you were always meant to be.
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