Fear keeps most men from pursuing meaningful and fulfilling opportunities in life – whether romantic, a business start-up, having a hard conversation, asking for a promotion or the sale, etc. But it really isn’t what we think it is – the fear of failure. More often than not, it’s the fear of what others may think about us that keeps us from going after what we desire.
My guest is Dr. Michael Gervais, a psychologist who studies mastery and what keeps us from obtaining it. In fact, he has worked with Super Bowl Champions, Olympic Gold Medalists, and some of the most elite performers in the world. Today, we discuss FOPO (fear of people’s opinions), the first rule of mastery, why we care so much about what others think, how we over-index approval as a necessary part of tribe building, and the dangers in being a one-dimensional man.
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My guest today is Dr. Michael Gervais, a high-performance psychologist, national bestselling author, and one of the world’s leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance. Over the course of a 20-year career working with world class performers and organizations, Dr. Gervais has developed a framework for the mental skills and practices that allow organizations, teams and individuals to thrive in pressure-packed environments.
He is also the author of The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying About What People Think of You and has nationally recognized speaker on optimal human performance, Dr. Gervais has been featured in premier media outlets including NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, ESPN, NFL Network, Red Bull TV, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Outside Magazine, WIRED, Sports Illustrated and ESPN The Magazine.
Dr. Gervais holds a doctorate degree in psychology, specializing in sport performance, and a master’s degree in kinesiology. He completed his PhD under the mentorship of Dr. Bruce Ogilvie, often referred to as the father of American applied sport psychology.
I hear from a lot of men who are on the fence about banding with us inside our exclusive brotherhood, The Iron Council. For many reasons, they want to join but don’t. Much of which stems from the topic of this conversation – fear. Fear of what they may need to do. Fear of what they may need to acknowledge in themselves. And, fear of looking stupid in front of other high-caliber men.
But let me ask you a question. If you’ve been sitting on the fence, is your life better, worse, or the same since you’ve been thinking about banding with us? I think the answer is not better. And, I think that’s the answer because in order to improve your life, you must do something different.
The fear is real. I understand. But what you’re going to find when you join us is a group of men who are going to work to help you succeed and a proven system to help you do it.
Enough thinking. Enough letting the fear drive you. Join us today at www.orderofman.com/ironcouncil.
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