If you’re a father (or plan to be one), I know how it is to feel completely inadequate to be the type of dad your children need you to be. Self-doubt, challenging life circumstances, and past emotional trauma all combine to create the perfect storm of insecurity in raising your sons and daughters right.

My guest today is New York Times Bestselling Author, Gary John Bishop and today he joins me to talk about his latest book, Grow Up: Becoming the Parent Your Kids Deserve. We cover such a wide array of topics in this conversation including why you should question your past and how to heal from it, the value of “empathetic intelligence” and how to use it effectively with your kids, how responsibility supersedes truthfulness, overcoming shame and guilt from parenting mistakes, and what it means to truly forgive someone.

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Gary John Bishop

Gary John Bishop is a leading personal development expert and author of the million-copy New York Times bestselling book, Unfu*k Yourself. He has helped millions break free from self-sabotaging behaviors in our everyday lives, relationships, and careers.

And, now he’s tackling a topic that hasn’t been broached by other authors on this no-BS self-help space before – parenting – with his newest book, Grow Up: Becoming the Parent Your Kids Deserve.

Show Highlights

• Parenting is rewarding - and frustrating
• We’re not always going to get it right
• Challenges of parenting after divorce
• Your kids are always observing you
• Your kids will come to their own determinations
• Kids are “traumatized” by different things
• Kids assign their own meaning to events
• We need to be clear with our kids about why we are doing what we are doing
• Don’t box your kids in
• Teaching your kids to be truthful is key
• Self-punishment is a way to distract
• You can’t get to forgiveness and hang onto blame

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