There are things that happened to you that weren’t your fault. Maybe your dad wasn’t there. Maybe no one modeled strength, discipline, or direction. Maybe you were handed confusion instead of clarity and drift instead of standards. But while it may not have been your fault, it is your responsibility. And the moment you understand that is the moment your life begins to change.
Today, my guest Frank Schwartz (Dark Helmet in the F3 Community, and I talk about what it means to stop blaming, stop guessing, and start leading. We’ll unpack why so many men feel disconnected from purpose, how to build direction through fitness, fellowship, and faith, and why your community needs you to set the standard — not apologize for it. This isn’t about shame. It’s about ownership. And ownership is where power begins.
Frank Schwartz is the CEO of F3 (Fitness, Fellowship, and Faith), a nationwide men’s movement that brings men together for peer-led workouts, leadership development, and authentic brotherhood. Through his leadership and years of experience inside F3, Frank has helped men move from isolation and passivity to direction, accountability, and purpose. Influenced by voices like John Eldredge and his book Wild at Heart, Frank speaks directly to the masculine longing for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a responsibility to carry.
Frank is known for calling men higher — not with shame, but with ownership. He emphasizes standards over drift, candor over comfort, and brotherhood over spectatorship. His message is simple but demanding: your past may explain you, but it does not excuse you. Through community, disciplined action, and high-agency leadership, Frank challenges men to stop blaming circumstances, set the standard, and become the kind of men their families and communities need.
Your family needs you steady. They need you grounded, disciplined, clear. Whether anyone says it or not, you set the tone in your home. Your leadership — or your drift — ripples through everything. And your community? It’s starving for men who will carry weight, tell the truth, and model responsibility instead of blame. The question isn’t whether you have influence. You do. The question is whether you’re developing it on purpose.
That’s what The Men’s Forge is about. It’s about stepping away from the noise long enough to sharpen yourself — physically, mentally, and spiritually — so you can go back stronger. You don’t come to The Forge for comfort. You come to be refined. Because when you raise your standard, your family rises with you. And your community gets the man it’s been waiting for.Go to www.themensforge.com to get registered.
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