The Do’s and Don’ts of Divorce | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

In this deeply personal episode, Ryan opens up about his own divorce - how it unfolded, what he learned, and how men can navigate their own journey with strength and integrity. Drawing from experience and thousands of conversations with men, Ryan shares five things NOT to do and five things TO do when facing divorce.

He reminds listeners that divorce, while painful, doesn’t have to be the end - it can be the start of rebuilding your life with purpose, clarity, and resilience.

Key Takeaways
Five Don’ts:

• Don’t sedate yourself - Avoid alcohol, porn, or distractions that numb growth.
• Don’t stalk your ex - Cut off emotional dependence and focus forward.
• Don’t sleep around - Don’t use others to fill emotional voids.
• Don’t seek vengeance or self-harm - You’re needed, and life can get better.
• Don’t watch porn - It distorts intimacy and respect for women.

Five Do’s:

• Build male friendships - Brotherhood is essential for healing and accountability.
• Develop new skills - Strengthen your financial and professional foundation.
• Learn a new hobby - Rediscover fun, joy, and adventure.
• Train your body - Rebuild strength, confidence, and vitality.
• Give back - Serving others heals your own pain.

Resources & Mentions

Divorce Not Death Program: divorcenotdeath.com
Email Ryan: ryan@orderofman.com
Follow on Instagram: @ryanmickler

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Intro
00:31 - The Moment It Happened
02:54 - Hitting Rock Bottom
04:54 - The Don’ts: Avoid Sedation
07:17 - Don’t Stalk or Chase
09:42 - Don’t Sleep Around
12:03 - Don’t End It All
13:50 - Don’t Seek Vengeance
16:17 - The Do’s: Build Brotherhood
18:39 - Develop Skills & Wealth
21:01 - Learn to Have Fun Again
23:19 - Train Your Body
25:18 - Give Back
26:50 - Divorce Not Death
28:30 - Closing Thoughts