I’ve spent a lot of time over the past 18 months looking into the various attachment styles of men – anxious, avoidant, and secure. I think we all intuitively know that “secure” is the best place to be, but the question is, “How do we get there?” It’s especially difficult considering our engrained attachment style drives so much of our decision-making process – much of which is subconscious.
My guest today is licensed psychotherapist and attachment specialist, Adam Lane Smith. Today, Adam and I discuss building secure, sustainable relationships, why responsibility breeds security and why we subconsciously avoid it, how the chemicals, Oxytocin and Vasopressin, drive our emotional and problem-solving connections, and why every man needs to work on building his “male solution network.”
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My guest today is licensed psychotherapist, attachment specialist, personal coach and author of Slaying Your Fear: A Guide for People Who Grapple with Insecurity, Adam Lane Smith. I have been following Adam’s work for years and we were finally able to make this podcast conversation happen!
He works with individuals, families, and executives to mend marital discord, become better parents, and navigate the world of modern-dating. He specializes in helping his clients confront and overcome deep-rooted patterns and beliefs that do not serve them and keep them from unlocking their full potential.
Adam talked today about the concept of the “male solution network.” I’ve never quite heard it referred to it that way but I like the concept because it perfectly describes what we’re doing inside our exclusive brotherhood, the Iron Council.
By now, I’m sure that you’ve heard of it and, for many of our members, they sat on the fence for months, if not years, before deciding to commit to their own band of brothers. That’s why this week, we decided to pull back the curtain and give you a look inside what we’re doing in the Iron Council.
If you want to learn more about what we’re doing and get a sneak peek, join us this Thursday, January 4th at 8:00pm ET for an Iron Council preview where you’ll hear from me and some of our senior leadership and get a closer, behind the scenes look at how the IC may serve you.
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