Why can’t women just understand men? Why can’t men just understand women? The short answer is, “we’re not supposed to.” If we were, we wouldn’t really have any need for each other, would we? My guest today, Adam Lane Smith, has made it his life’s work to get closer to helping men understand women and help us understand our own natural tendencies in relationships.
Today, Adam and I talk about emotional starvation, the concept of CEO/COO between men and women, the ‘red flags’ that your marriage is struggling, what men and women do to cause each other pain, and how men can lead in their relationships much more effectively.
Adam Lane Smith is a renowned attachment specialist, author, and speaker dedicated to helping people build stronger, healthier relationships. With years of experience working with individuals, couples, and organizations, Adam has developed a reputation for making the complex science of human attachment simple, practical, and actionable. His straightforward, no-nonsense approach equips people with the tools to overcome anxiety, repair trust, and create meaningful bonds in every area of life.
As the host of engaging conversations and the author of multiple books, Adam blends research-backed insights with relatable storytelling to inspire lasting change. Whether guiding someone through the aftermath of broken trust or showing them how to build rock-solid confidence, his mission is clear: to help people connect deeply and live authentically. On today’s podcast, Adam shares his expertise on attachment, communication, and the habits that lead to stronger connections.
Divorce, Not Death is a powerful call to men navigating one of life’s most painful and disorienting challenges. In it, I reject the common narrative that divorce is the end of a man’s purpose, dignity, or ability to lead a meaningful life. Instead, I frame it as a pivotal moment to reclaim your identity, rebuild personal strength, and create a vision for the future that isn’t defined by loss. Drawing on my own personal experiences and the lessons I’ve learned in working with thousands of men, we provide a blueprint for emerging from divorce not as a victim, but as a man forged by adversity.
This isn’t a sugar-coated pep talk—it’s a battle plan. I’m going to address the emotional, financial, and relational wreckage that often comes with divorce while equipping you with the mindset and strategies to stand tall in the storm. Through hard truths, practical steps, and a relentless focus on personal responsibility, Divorce, Not Death shows that while marriage may end, a man’s mission, impact, and masculinity do not. It’s a rallying cry for those ready to stop mourning what’s lost and start building what’s next.
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