If you’ve ever heard the dreaded words, “I love you but I am not in love with you,” or, more bluntly, “I want a divorce,” you know what follows is a mental and emotional rollercoaster of epic proportion. But what you probably don’t know is what to do if that day comes and what your rights might be when it comes to protecting yourself, your money, and your relationship with your children.
My guest today, Attorney David Pissara, has made it his life’s work to help men navigate what is likely the most difficult part of his life – post-divorce. Today, we talk about how to avoid conflict during these times while simultaneously protecting your rights, the emotional manipulation many men face and how to confront it, whether or not the family court system is biased and what to expect when dealing with the courts, what indicators to be on the lookout for you to recognize if a divorce is pending, and even how AI may change family law.
David Pisarra is a straight-shooting attorney, author, and men’s advocate who’s spent the last twenty years helping men navigate the rough waters of divorce, custody battles, and family court. He knows firsthand how overwhelming the system can feel, and he’s made it his mission to give men the tools and confidence they need to stand up for themselves, protect their rights, and fight for their kids.
On top of running his law practice, David has written multiple books, hosted shows, and spoken to audiences across the country about what men really go through when families break apart. He brings a mix of legal know-how and real-world perspective to those who feel like the odds are stacked against them. Whether it’s in the courtroom, on the page, or behind the mic with his own podcast, DADS Law School, David Pisarra is committed to being a voice for men when they need it most.
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This course isn’t about wallowing in loss—it’s about choosing life. It’s about rediscovering who you are when the title of “husband” is stripped away. I and our instructors draw from hard-earned experience and practical wisdom to guide men through pain into power, through grief into growth. Divorce, Not Death is a roadmap: proof that what feels like devastation can, in fact, become the catalyst for your greatest transformation.
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